All You Need is LovePublished: February 14, 2020
Valentine’s Day has become a special time each year for couples everywhere to celebrate their favourite four-letter word: Love. It’s a day that celebrates the kind of epic love we see in movies that always feels out of reach. Couples shower their significant others with heart-shaped chocolates, gifts and affection, but at the end of the day, it’s just a day. Whether you are single or in a relationship, it’s important to remember that the act of loving is not just for couples, even if the retail industry, magazines and social media seem to indicate that it is. Love is something you can, and should, give yourself each and every day.
Self-love is the best type of love because you’ll always be there for you. Being kind to yourself, particularly during times of hardship, is known among psychologists as self-compassion or self-love. It means treating yourself as kindly as you would treat a friend or family member who needs support.
Self-love and compassion are essential for mental health and well-being, keeping depression and anxiety at bay. Stop beating yourself up, putting yourself down, criticizing yourself or thinking you aren’t good enough. We need to learn to accept ourselves for who we are with all our flaws and weaknesses. The more you accept and appreciate yourself, the more you will thrive in everything you do.
Here are five ways to love yourself more this Valentine’s Day, and every other day:
Give Yourself Positive Affirmations
Think about the way you talk about and treat yourself. Are your thoughts more negative than positive? Giving yourself daily positive-affirmations is important to building a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life It might seem silly at first, but practising positive affirmations in the mirror will make you more aware of your thoughts and reduce the risk of letting negativity seep in.
Practice Mindfulness and Meditation
Mindfulness and meditation help us to not be overwhelmed by what’s going on around us. It grounds us in the present moment, which can enable us to navigate and manage our thoughts and emotions better.
Being fully present and listening to your inner voice can help you to appreciate each moment, rather than being distracted by a negative inner-dialogue or small and insignificant inconveniences in your everyday life.
Keep a Success Journal
Many people tend to remember their losses and failures in life more than their wins. To help, create a list of accomplishments you’re proud of. When you’re feeling down, or you notice negative thoughts creeping into your mind, review your entries.
We’re human and we all make mistakes. Continually being hard on yourself and focusing on your past mistakes is not productive. Show compassion and forgiveness to yourself, as you would for a close friend or family member.
Do Something You Love
What are your hobbies and passions? Make time in your life for music, art, baking – whatever makes you happy.
This year, make Valentine’s Day not just about loving others, but about loving yourself. Before you share your love with others, fill yourself first with the love that you deserve.